The column where we’re going to talk about the shit nobody wants to talk about

By Sarah Campbell
Board Certified Clinical Sexologist | Certified Sex Coach | Certified Sexology Educator

LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX.

Not the sanitized version.

Not the “birds and bees” version.

Not the version where everyone magically knows what they’re doing, communicates perfectly, has mind-blowing orgasms, and somehow looks fucking fabulous while doing it.

The real version.

The awkward version.

The complicated version.

The version where sometimes you have no fucking idea what you’re doing.

Where your libido disappears.

Where your body changes.

Where your relationship gets complicated.

Where you have a fantasy you’re afraid to admit.

Where you want something but don’t know how to ask for it.

Where you say yes when you actually mean maybe.

Where you say no and somebody takes it personally.

Where you’re exhausted, touched-out, insecure, curious, horny, confused — or occasionally all of those things before breakfast.

That’s what we’re talking about here.

Welcome to Naughty Truths.

SO WHO THE FUCK AM I?

I’m Sarah Campbell.

I’m a Board Certified Clinical Sexologist.

I’m a Certified Sex Coach.

I’m a Certified Sexology Educator.

I’m a Registered Early Childhood Educator.

I’m a single mom.

I’m a daughter.

I’m a best friend.

I’m a business owner.

I’m a student.

I’m a whole bunch of other things depending on what fucking day you catch me.

But most of all?

I’m Sarah.

I’ve spent years talking to people about sex, relationships, intimacy, desire, communication, bodies, pleasure, shame, fantasies and all the wonderfully messy shit that comes with being a sexual human being.

And I’m your new best friend who’s not afraid to say the taboo things out loud, ask the uncomfortable questions and tell you the hard truths so we can all learn together.

Because the letters after my name matter when I’m doing my job.

But they don’t tell you who I am.

And neither do the other labels.

I’m Sarah first.

I’m here to bring you the research, the education, the questions, the uncomfortable conversations and, occasionally, a healthy dose of “What the fuck?”

Because I don’t think any of us have to pretend we’ve got this whole sexuality thing figured out.

We can learn together.

And if we’re going to talk about the shit nobody wants to talk about, we might as well have a fucking good time doing it.

WHY “NAUGHTY TRUTHS”?

Because there are a lot of things we don’t talk about.

We whisper about them.

We Google them at midnight.

We ask our friends.

We scroll TikTok looking for answers.

We pretend we’re not curious.

We assume everyone else knows something we don’t.

And sometimes we quietly wonder:

“Is it just me?”

Spoiler alert:

Probably fucking not.

The things you’re embarrassed about are often much more common than you think.

The problem is that we’re terrible at talking about them.

So we’re going to start talking.

THIS IS NOT YOUR GRANDMA’S SEX COLUMN

I’m not here to tell you:

“Just communicate.”

Without explaining how.

I’m not going to tell you:

“Spice things up!”

and then leave you staring at your partner wondering what the fuck that actually means.

I’m not going to tell you that everyone should want the same amount of sex.

I’m not going to tell you that orgasms are the goal of every sexual encounter.

I’m not going to tell you that if you aren’t dripping with confidence, wearing matching lingerie and having sex three times a week, you’re doing relationships wrong.

And I’m definitely not going to tell you that there’s one magical formula that will fix everyone’s sex life.

Humans aren’t fucking IKEA furniture.

There is no universal instruction manual.

THE CLINICAL PART

Now, before you think this is just going to be me ranting about sex while swearing creatively — which, to be fair, is absolutely going to happen — there’s another side to this.

I’m a clinical sexologist.

That means I care about what the research actually tells us.

Sexuality isn’t just about what feels good.

It’s also about:

• psychology
• physiology
• relationships
• communication
• culture
• identity
• shame
• expectations
• health
• life experiences
• and the stories we’ve been taught about what sex is supposed to look like.

So we’re going to bring the evidence into the conversation.

But I’m also going to translate the academic shit into language normal humans can understand.

Because if I have to read one more article that uses 47 words when seven would have done the job…

Jebus.

WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT?

Every month, we’re going to take one of those uncomfortable topics and pull it apart.

We’ll talk about things like:

DESIRE

Why do I want sex more than my partner?

Why do I want it less?

Why did my libido disappear?

Why can I want sex sometimes but not others?

PLEASURE

Why is orgasm so fucking difficult?

Why does everyone seem to think I’m supposed to know exactly what I like?

Why does pleasure sometimes feel like work?

INTIMACY

What happens when sex and intimacy aren’t the same thing?

How do we reconnect when we’re more like roommates than lovers?

What does intimacy actually look like outside the bedroom?

BODY CONFIDENCE

Why am I waiting until I lose weight to wear lingerie?

Why do I feel sexy for five minutes and then immediately start criticizing myself?

Why do I think everyone is looking at my stomach?

FANTASY

Does having a fantasy mean I actually want to do it?

Why am I turned on by something I would never actually want to experience?

What the fuck does my imagination say about me?

RELATIONSHIPS

How do you talk about sex without starting a fight?

What happens when your needs don’t match?

Can you love someone and still not want sex with them?

How do you talk about boundaries without making your partner feel rejected?

SEXUAL EXPLORATION

What happens when you want to try something new?

What are the rules of a sex-positive space?

How do you figure out what you actually want?

And how the fuck do you know whether something is right for you?

AND YES, WE’RE GOING TO TALK ABOUT THE AWKWARD SHIT

Because that’s where the good stuff usually is.

We’re going to talk about:

• libido
• orgasms
• masturbation
• body image
• lingerie
• lubrication
• fantasies
• kink
• communication
• relationships
• intimacy
• sexual shame
• consent
• sexual health
• dating
• parenting and sexuality
• and the weird, wonderful, complicated reality of being a sexual human being.

Some topics will make you laugh.

Some might make you uncomfortable.

Some might make you think:

“Holy shit. I thought I was the only one.”

And occasionally, something might make you want to throw your phone across the room.

That’s okay too.

ONE MORE THING

Naughty Truths isn’t going to be a collection of disconnected articles.

And I’m making this promise right from the beginning:

I’m not going to spend every month explaining the same fucking thing in a slightly different outfit.

If we properly unpack a concept in one article and it becomes relevant later, I’ll point you back to it.

I’ll give you enough context to understand what we’re talking about, but I’m not going to make you sit through the same lecture again.

If you’ve already read it, you don’t need me to repeat it.

And if you haven’t?

I’ll give you the fucking rabbit hole.

Because I don’t want to build a pile of recycled advice.

I want to build a library.

A living, evolving, interconnected library where each article adds something new, builds on what came before, and gives you somewhere else to go if you want to dig deeper.

You can read them in order.

You can jump around.

You can find one topic that speaks directly to you and go down that particular rabbit hole until three hours later you’re wondering how the fuck you ended up reading about responsive desire at midnight.

That’s allowed.

You get to decide how deep you want to go.

THIS IS YOUR INVITATION

Maybe you’ve got a question you’ve been too embarrassed to ask.

Maybe you’ve been wondering whether something you’re experiencing is normal.

Maybe your relationship is going through something you don’t know how to explain.

Maybe you’ve got a fantasy you can’t quite make sense of.

Maybe you’ve been told something about sex your entire life and you’re finally thinking:

“Wait. Is that actually true?”

Ask.

Seriously.

Ask the fucking question.

Your question could become a future Naughty Truths column.

📩 meb4weintimacy@gmail.com

Put “Naughty Truths” in the subject line.

Questions can be submitted anonymously, and identifying details can be changed where appropriate.

No shame. No judgment. No stupid questions.

NAUGHTY TAROT

Every month, we’ll also pull a Tarot card and see what kind of trouble — or wisdom — it has for us.

Not because Tarot is a substitute for science.

It isn’t.

Think of it as a little reflective exercise.

A chance to look at the month’s topic from another angle and ask:

“What does this bring up for me?”

Sometimes the cards will be profound.

Sometimes they’ll be fucking hilarious.

Either way, we’ll see what happens.

THE BOTTOM LINE

Sex is not one-size-fits-all.

Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all.

Bodies aren’t one-size-fits-all.

Desire isn’t one-size-fits-all.

And thank fucking goodness for that.

You don’t need to fit someone else’s definition of sexy.

You don’t need to have the same libido as your partner.

You don’t need to know everything.

You don’t need to be perfectly confident.

You don’t need to have everything figured out before you’re allowed to ask questions.

You just need to be willing to get curious.

Because curiosity is where a lot of really fucking good things begin.

READY TO GET NAUGHTY?

Welcome to Naughty Truths.

I’m Sarah.

I’m a sexologist.

I’m a coach.

I’m an educator.

I’m a woman who has absolutely no interest in pretending that humans are neat, predictable little creatures who follow instructions perfectly.

We’re messy.

We’re complicated.

We’re curious.

We’re sexual.

And we’re allowed to talk about it.

So buckle the fuck up.

We’re going there.

Sarah Campbell
Board Certified Clinical Sexologist | Certified Sex Coach | Certified Sexology Educator